Is voice chat itself the problem?

Voice chat is not inherently dangerous, but it removes one of the natural barriers to grooming — typing. It is harder to think before you speak, and it builds parasocial closeness fast. For under-13s, friends-only voice chat is a sensible default. For older teens, listening in occasionally is more useful than banning it.

My child says the older player is also a child, just with a deep voice. How do I know?

You usually do not. Treat the voice as unverified. The safer position is to assume any player whose identity you cannot confirm from real life is an unknown adult, and apply the rules accordingly. If your child genuinely knows the player from school or family, that is verifiable.

Should I just ban the game?

Often counterproductive. Banning the game pushes the contact onto Discord or Snapchat where you have less oversight. Better to keep the game, tighten the chat settings, and stay close to who they play with.

Your Child Plays Online Games With Older Strangers

Your child is in voice chat or party chat with players much older than them. What to check and what to do.

สิ่งที่อาจกำลังเกิดขึ้น

Your child is regularly playing Roblox, Fortnite, Minecraft, Call of Duty, Valorant, or similar games in voice chat or party chat with players you do not know — often much older than them. They might have met these players through public matchmaking, a Discord server linked to the game, or a Roblox group. To your child these are "friends" because they game together every day. To the older player, your child is one of many young accounts they spend time with.

เรื่องนี้ร้ายแรงแค่ไหน?

Most adults who play with children online are not predatory. Some are. The pattern that grooming follows in gaming is well-documented: an older player is unusually patient and kind, gives the child in-game gifts (V-Bucks, Robux, skins), moves them off the game into Discord or Snapchat for private chat, asks about home life, isolates them from their other friends, and slowly introduces secrets and then sexual content. The earlier you spot the pattern, the easier it is to stop.

สิ่งที่ต้องทำก่อน

ขั้นตอนที่ 1

Sit next to your child while they play, for a whole session. Listen to the voice chat. Note the names, ages (if stated), and how they talk to your child.

ขั้นตอนที่ 2

Ask your child to introduce you to their gaming friends — "who's this, how old are they, where did you meet?" Watch how they answer.

ขั้นตอนที่ 3

Check for gifts. Has your child received V-Bucks, Robux, rare skins, or trades from these players? Gift-giving from older players to younger ones is a strong warning sign.

ขั้นตอนที่ 4

Check whether the contact has moved off-platform. Look in Discord, Snapchat, WhatsApp, Instagram DMs. Cross-platform contact is the second warning sign.

ขั้นตอนที่ 5

Set voice chat and party chat to friends-only or off, and trim the friends list to people your child knows from school or family.

สิ่งที่ควรพูด

"Show me your gaming friends — I want to know who you play with the same way I'd want to know who you hang out with after school."
"It is OK to like an older player. I'm not banning them yet — I just want to understand who they are."
"If anyone you game with ever asks you to keep something secret from me, that is the rule that's broken — not whatever the secret is."

สิ่งที่ไม่ควรพูด

✗"Stop playing that game, it's full of weirdos." — they will hide it instead.
✗"Real friends are people you meet in person." — true for you, not how 11-year-olds see it.
✗"Did they touch you?" as the opening question — too direct, shuts disclosure down.

การตั้งค่าที่ต้องตรวจสอบ

•Xbox: Family Settings App → Communication & multiplayer → set voice/text chat to Friends only and turn off cross-network play if you want it tighter.
•PlayStation: Family Management → set Communicating with Other Players to Not Allowed or Friends Only for under-13s.
•Nintendo Switch: Parental Controls app → Communicating with Others → Restricted.
•Roblox: account settings → set age to correct age, turn Account Restrictions on for under-13s, set chat to friends only.
•Fortnite: parental controls PIN, disable voice chat or set to Teammates, hide real name from other players.
•Discord: if your child uses it, set them as under-13 (which limits DMs) or check Family Centre and server membership.

เมื่อใดควรขอความช่วยเหลือเพิ่ม

If an older player has asked for personal information, images, a video call, to meet, has sent your child money or codes, or has moved them to a private chat — preserve the evidence (screenshots, usernames, server links) and report to CEOP (https://www.ceop.police.uk). The NSPCC also runs a dedicated helpline (0808 800 5000). If your child is in immediate danger, call 999.

Frequently Asked Questions

ตรวจสอบล่าสุด: 2026-05-16

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