Peer-on-Peer Abuse
Understanding abuse carried out by children against other children — including bullying, sexual harassment, violence, and sexting — and schools' duties under KCSIE.
What is this?
Peer-on-peer abuse refers to harmful behaviour by children directed at other children. It includes bullying, physical violence, sexual harassment, sexual violence, sexting (sharing intimate images), and coercive or controlling behaviour in peer relationships. Under Keeping Children Safe in Education (KCSIE) Part 5, schools have clear duties to create environments where peer abuse is not tolerated and to respond effectively when it occurs.
How it works
Peer-on-peer abuse can occur in person and online. It includes a wide spectrum of behaviour, from name-calling and social exclusion to serious sexual assault. KCSIE requires schools to have clear policies on peer-on-peer abuse and to ensure that staff understand it can and does happen. Children who display harmful behaviour may themselves have been harmed, and responses should consider the needs of both victim and perpetrator.
Warning signs
In your child's behaviour
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On their device
- • Receiving a high volume of messages from peers followed by visible distress
- • Being tagged in posts or images in ways that appear embarrassing or unwanted
- • Secretive use of a phone or device, particularly after school or at night
Prevention steps
Implement a robust anti-bullying and peer abuse policy
KCSIE requires schools to have policies that explicitly address peer-on-peer abuse. Policies should cover online and offline behaviour, include clear reporting mechanisms, and be reviewed regularly.
Provide ongoing PSHE education on healthy relationships
Relationship and Sex Education (RSE) should include age-appropriate content on consent, boundaries, and what healthy peer relationships look like. Children need the language and confidence to identify and report abuse.
Train all staff to respond to disclosures appropriately
Staff should know how to receive a disclosure without minimising the concern or treating it as 'normal' behaviour. KCSIE is clear that peer-on-peer abuse must be taken as seriously as abuse by adults.
What to do if it happens
- 1Listen to the child without judgement and reassure them that you believe them and that it is not their fault. Record what they say using their own words where possible.
- 2Report to your DSL immediately. Peer-on-peer abuse involving sexual violence or sharing of intimate images may require a police referral and should be treated as a child protection matter.
- 3Consider the needs of both the child who has been harmed and the child who has caused harm. Both may require support, and the response should be proportionate, child-focused, and trauma-informed.
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This is practical educational content to support families. For case-specific concerns about a child's safety, contact the NSPCC helpline on 0808 800 5000 or your local safeguarding team.
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Last reviewed: 2026-04-10