How can I tell if my older teenager is being drawn into an online romance scam?

Common signs are a partner they've never met in person, who quickly intensifies the relationship, always has reasons not to video call, and eventually asks for money or intimate images. Trust-building followed by a crisis needing funds is the classic pattern. Encourage them never to send money or images to someone they've only met online, and to talk to you or report it to Action Fraud.

I'm worried my teenager is being radicalised online. Where can I turn for help?

Look for sudden shifts in beliefs, new secrecy about online activity, withdrawal from friends, and us-versus-them language. This is a recognised safeguarding issue, and you can seek help early without your child being criminalised: contact the government's Prevent programme via ACT Early (actearly.uk, 0800 011 3764), speak to their school, or call the police on 101 (999 in an emergency).

Recognising Online Manipulation

How older teenagers can identify and protect themselves from manipulation tactics used online, including radicalisation, romance scams, and coercive control.

Older teenagers are increasingly independent online, which brings exposure to sophisticated manipulation tactics. From romance scams and catfishing to radicalisation and coercive control in online relationships, the risks evolve as young people engage more deeply with the digital world. This page helps young people recognise the tactics used and respond confidently.

Common Manipulation Tactics

Manipulators online use techniques such as love-bombing (overwhelming someone with attention and affection), isolation (encouraging the person to distance themselves from friends and family), and gaslighting (making someone question their own perception of reality). These tactics are often subtle and build gradually, making them hard to recognise in the moment.

Recognising Radicalisation Attempts

Extremist groups actively recruit young people online through social media, forums, and messaging apps. They often target individuals who feel isolated, angry, or searching for identity. Warning signs include a sudden shift in beliefs, withdrawal from previous social circles, and increasing secrecy about online activity. If you notice these signs in yourself or a friend, seek help early.

Protecting Yourself

Trust your instincts — if something feels wrong, it probably is. Never send money to someone you have only met online, no matter how compelling their story. Keep friends and family informed about your online relationships. If you suspect you are being manipulated, speak to a trusted adult or contact a helpline such as Childline (0800 1111) or the police.

External sources

Advice for parents and carers — Thinkuknow (CEOP)
Online safety issues hub — Internet Matters

Frequently Asked Questions

This is practical educational content to support families. For case-specific concerns about a child's safety, contact the NSPCC helpline on 0808 800 5000 or your local safeguarding team.