My Child Has Seen Sexual Content Online
Your child has accidentally or deliberately encountered sexual or pornographic material online — on a website, social media feed, group chat, or pop-up advert.
Finding out your child has seen sexual content can be alarming, but how you respond in the next few minutes matters more than the content itself. Children often feel confused, embarrassed, or worried they are in trouble. A calm, reassuring reaction from you will help them process what happened and feel safe coming to you in the future.
What to do now
Stay Calm and Reassure
Take a breath before reacting. Tell your child they are not in trouble and that you are glad they told you (or that you found out). Use a calm, matter-of-fact tone.
✗ Do not: Do not show shock, anger, or disgust — this can make a child shut down or blame themselves.
Remove the Content from View
Gently close the browser tab, app, or device screen. If the content appeared in a message or group chat, mute or leave the conversation for now. You can review it later if needed.
Ask Open Questions
Without interrogating, ask your child what they saw and how it made them feel. Listen more than you speak. Phrases like 'Can you tell me a bit about what happened?' work well.
Explain in Age-Appropriate Terms
Briefly explain that what they saw is not what real relationships look like, and that it was made for adults. Keep explanations short and honest, matching their age and maturity.
Review Device Settings Together
Check and update parental controls, SafeSearch settings, and app restrictions. Involve your child where appropriate so they understand why these settings exist.
What not to do
- ✗Do not punish your child or take away their device as an immediate reaction — this discourages future disclosure.
- ✗Do not force your child to describe every detail of what they saw.
- ✗Do not ignore the incident — even if your child seems fine, check in with them over the coming days.
- ✗Do not share details of the incident on social media or with people who do not need to know.
Preserving evidence
Why this matters
If you need to report to authorities or a platform, evidence can help.
- •Take a screenshot of the URL or app where the content appeared before closing it, in case you need to report it later.
- •Note the date, time, and platform. If the content was sent by another person, record their username or profile name.
- •If the content may be illegal (e.g. child sexual abuse material), do not save or share it — report it directly to the Internet Watch Foundation (IWF) or CEOP.
How to talk to your child
- ✓Use phrases like 'I'm really glad you told me' or 'You haven't done anything wrong' to build trust.
- ✓Let your child lead the conversation — answer their questions honestly but do not over-explain or lecture.
- ✓Check in again over the following days. Children sometimes process things slowly and may have questions later.
Who to contact
NSPCC Helpline
If you are worried about your child's wellbeing or need advice
24/7, 365 days a year
Childline
For children and young people to talk confidentially
24/7, 365 days a year
Internet Watch Foundation (IWF)
To report child sexual abuse imagery found online
Online reporting available 24/7
CEOP (Child Exploitation and Online Protection)
If an adult has behaved inappropriately towards your child online
Online reporting available 24/7
This guidance is for informational purposes. It is not a substitute for emergency services or professional safeguarding support. If a child is in immediate danger, call 999 (UK) or 911 (US) now.
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Do this:
- 1. Take a breath before reacting. Tell your child they are not in trouble and that you are glad they told you (or that you found out). Use a calm, matter-of-fact tone.
- 2. Gently close the browser tab, app, or device screen. If the content appeared in a message or group chat, mute or leave the conversation for now. You can review it later if needed.
- 3. Without interrogating, ask your child what they saw and how it made them feel. Listen more than you speak. Phrases like 'Can you tell me a bit about what happened?' work well.
- 4. Briefly explain that what they saw is not what real relationships look like, and that it was made for adults. Keep explanations short and honest, matching their age and maturity.
- 5. Check and update parental controls, SafeSearch settings, and app restrictions. Involve your child where appropriate so they understand why these settings exist.
Do NOT do this:
- ✗ Do not punish your child or take away their device as an immediate reaction — this discourages future disclosure.
- ✗ Do not force your child to describe every detail of what they saw.
- ✗ Do not ignore the incident — even if your child seems fine, check in with them over the coming days.
- ✗ Do not share details of the incident on social media or with people who do not need to know.
Stay calm. You are doing the right thing by looking for help. Your child needs your support, not your panic.
Last reviewed: 2026-03-01